In my late teens and early 20ies, I was a fiction novel junkie. Those authors who would be judged as shallow or masala-writers, were my favourite then. Jeffery Archer, Eric Segal. I loved them. But when asked who was my favourite writer, I would say Jane Austen. Although I loved her too, having read Pride and Prejudice like a 100 times. But it was still a pretentious response. I would not just grab a Jane Austen, it needed a commitment. It wasn’t an easy read like Archer or Segal. It wasn’t filled with profanity which seemed so cool at that age.
I had this one copy of Eric Segal’s Love Story which I loved. This book was very precious to me. Sole drama book among so called respectable authors like Amitav Ghosh, Jane Austin, George Orwell. It was such a thin book, that none of my friends noticed it until one day.
After that it was passed on and on and on. And never found it’s way back to me. Apparently it went to boys hostel too. In fact boys told me they read that book. I judged those boys too. Real Boys aren’t supposed to be reading romantic novels. The conventional notions we grew up with!
For some reason this month, I remembered Andy Williams and so began my journey into the memory lane. Since then I have heard the song “Where do I begin” everyday on repeat. Remembered my hostel friend who would play Moon River on piano and how we would sing Frank Sinatra while taking a walk around the campus at night. Based on my choices, Alexa has created a playlist for me consisting of Tony Bennett, Robert Goulet and others. Thanks lovely AI!
So anyways, the songs triggered the memory of these authors and books. A good way to measure how one has changed over years is to read the same book again and notice one’s reactions to it. So I picked up Love Story again, this time Kindle version (will stay in my account forever now!).
It is an irony that the last book I read before this one was Career and Family by Nobel winner in economics this year, Claudia Goldin. Funny how it is also about Harvard grads, it is also about love and family. Only, it is non-fictional, realistic, full of numbers and the story goes on for many years after marriage. Goldin explains the history and reasons for work pay disparity between genders. She also offers suggestions on how we can achieve gender equality by bringing more flexibility at work.
So after that super serious analysis, when I picked up Eric Segal’s Love Story, it felt like reading a fairy tale interspersed with profanity and slang. I loved it. Again. Same emotions floating up after so long. I could feel the 20 year old in me coming alive after being dormant for 2 decades. I recalled how during my college, which was Harvard of India, we were so arrogant, how we felt invincible. It was so easy to relate to the book at that time. It could be easily be my story.
How the girl in the story never pursued her career. I myself never liked career minded girls. And the story supported my viewpoint. At that time it seemed protagonist was a girl who dies, who was brilliant, loving, kind, funny, forgiving, sacrificing. Basically perfect. Perfect wife.
Which girl doesn’t want to relate to that in their 20ies. And she marries the top of the class, jock, lawyer basically Prince Charming. What could be better than that.
Now after 2 decades, I know the story isn’t about the girl at all. It was always about the boy. Who writes the story. Who gets everything his way. Who is extremely ill mannered, selfish, insensitive, ungrateful, spoiled brat. Only on the girl’s death bed he realises she never got to live her dreams. She sacrificed her entire life for his goals. And mind you, the writer makes it a point that dying girl liberates the boy of this guilt.
What would the story be in today’s age? Would such a talented girl leave all her dreams to live the life suitable for her husband. I don’t think so. But would pursuing that dream be better than spending time with the man she loved? Difficult to say.
Love story in today’s world is a complicated affair. It is free of conventions. It is filled with possibilities. Nowadays self-love supersedes other kinds of love. Although much has changed in 2 decades, the concept of loneliness remains the same. Many types of love have sprouted but loneliness hasn’t changed much. It is very much there now as it was then.